Posted by pegasus on March 12, 2004, at 13:28:15
In reply to Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » pegasus, posted by Karen_kay on March 11, 2004, at 11:47:36
Now, I think this is really interesting. It sounds like people can definitely be in love with their T without the T having less firm boundaries (like tinydancer said). And who knows whether softer boundaries can sometimes lead to more intense dependency or whatever. But it's good to hear that in your case, having a "crush" on your T lead to some really great results. So even if it is true, maybe it's not bad.
I've never felt that I've been in love with my T, but I have definitely felt needy and dependent in an unhealthy way. And I won't say that I haven't had sexual thoughts. He had pretty firm boundaries, but he did sometimes go over time with me. And he definitely has told me some pretty personal things about himself, although only once in a context where it was really about him and not about me. I don't know what to make of this connection, but it does seem that when we cross some of those boundaries, I start to want more from him.
Maybe it all depends on the individual people involved.
- p
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