Posted by Karen_kay on March 11, 2004, at 11:47:36
In reply to Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries?, posted by pegasus on March 11, 2004, at 11:22:14
I get the same feeling as well. But, in my case, it worked out fine. I had erotic transference, as well as a parental type transference for Bubba and he had "questionable" boundaries. However, he encouraged me to talk about the feelings for a while and they just went away eventually. I wish I knew how they did and in a way I'm sad that I don't still have a crush on him, as it was fun. But, I do understand what you're saying completely, as I too have noticed it. In my case however, the feelings went away on their own, or perhaps after he allowed me to talk about and discuss them.
I honestly feel that now I have a very healthy attachment to Bubba. But, my problem leaned more on the side of keeping him at arm's length rather than being too dependent on him. I think I've always been somewhat dependent on him, just very hesitant to show it. And now I'm not afraid to anymore. I think that going through the various stages of therapy that we did was very helpful and necessary for me to realize that he'd still respect me and care about me, even when I was attracted to him, saw him as a father, was resistant, etc... But, I couldn't agree more with what you said. I don't know why it worked out in my case. Perhaps because I have a hard time forming emotional attachments and with him extending the boundaries, it showed me that he was willing to break some rules to help me? I really don't have a clue, I'm just glad the story has a happy ending in my case. I'm curious to see other's responses though..
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