How do you feel about your T's boundaries?

Posted by KindGirl on March 9, 2004, at 20:53:45

Hey everyone....
Just got back from my session today after taking off last week (if you guys remember I was quitting last week! I guess I am not quitting this week. hee hee)...and T. and I talked about boundaries. I told her I was afraid I was going to make a mistake with her...cross some boundary I didn't know about and make her either mad or sick of me.
FYI...I bought two copies of In Session and we both read it. She had never heard of it and really enjoyed the book, so thanks to all of you who recommended it! She said that in books like that one I can read all about different therapists with differing views on boundaries. She said some therapists have very firm boundaries, and I told her about some of the comments I read here and I would agree that some of your T's have very clear boundaries.
For instance, the whole getting a picture of your t. thing we talked about in a thread here...some of you will never get pictures of your t's apparently, mine gave me one of her...some of you have t.s that won't touch you, mine is very fine with holding me and hugging me if I want....
So................how do you feel about your boundaries with your t? Do the boundaries help you feel safe? How do they make you feel? My t. said she has very flexible boundaries and I told her that would be hard for me to accept because I am convinced I am going to overstep my place, etc. and she said, "that is not going to happen here. You will never overstep your boundaries with me."
I am sure her flexibility is esp hard for me because my mother was incredibly rigid, never wanted me around, never had time for me, told me to go outside and talk to the plants and basically let me know I was not wanted, ever. I was a bother to her. She said it and she acted on it, so when my t. says I can call her whenever I want, have extra sessions, ask her to make me tapes to help me sleep...whatever....I just can't seem to ask. :( Bummer.
Any thoughts on any of these ramblings?

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How do you feel about your T's boundaries? KindGirl 3/9/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » KindGirl Fallen4myT 3/9/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » Fallen4myT tinydancer 3/10/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? tinydancer 3/10/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? Karen_kay 3/10/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? Miss Honeychurch 3/10/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » Karen_kay tinydancer 3/10/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries?/lon » tinydancer Fallen4myT 3/10/04
Here goes the nightmare.. » tinydancer Karen_kay 3/10/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries?/lon » Fallen4myT Pfinstegg 3/10/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries?/lon » Pfinstegg Fallen4myT 3/10/04
Re: Here goes the nightmare.. » Karen_kay tinydancer 3/11/04
Me, honest? Ha! » tinydancer Karen_kay 3/11/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? pegasus 3/11/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » pegasus Karen_kay 3/11/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » KindGirl terrics 3/11/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » Karen_kay Pfinstegg 3/11/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? tinydancer 3/12/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » Karen_kay pegasus 3/12/04
Re: Here goes the nightmare.. obSession 3/12/04
Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » pegasus Dinah 3/12/04

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