Posted by Daisym on October 29, 2004, at 18:10:33
In reply to Re: What your T does when you cry?, posted by crushedout on October 29, 2004, at 0:21:17
He holds me emotionally, tells me it is OK to cry in here and gives me space but not too much space to get calm. I rarely sob, usually tears down the cheeks.
Sometimes he wants to know "who" is crying and why. When it is a younger part, he moves a little closer and talks softly about not being afraid.
It took me a long time to learn to cry with him. I still apologize every time.
The other thing I like is that if I'm trying hard not to cry (deep breathing) he lets me not cry. He doesn't feel the need to make me let it all out. At the same time he lets me know it is totally OK and safe if I do.
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