Posted by 10derHeart on December 8, 2005, at 13:55:11
In reply to Called my T, feel stupid now, posted by Voce on December 8, 2005, at 0:57:50
I'm really glad you called her. Makes sense to me both rationally AND emotionally (whoo-hoo, both of those working together for once!)
As I go along this similar therapy-journey with you and everyone else, I'm realizing no matter HOW pathetic, stupid, needy or weird we feel or think we are at certain points, that making the connection, or trying our best to connect and reconnect (even when some Ts aren't up to it... :-( ), is pretty much *never* a mistake, bad, wrong or unhealthy.
Even when the response or lack thereof hurts for a while. Even then.
But the chance someone will respond like your T2 just did seems worth it.
I mean, the opposite can't be so good right? At least, not in the long term. Endless rumination, wondering what they'd say, worrying, isolating, denying your real feelings, and not doing anything about it? Most of us find ourselves in that space for longer or shorter periods (nothing wrong with that, either, perfectly human) but we then seem to feel pretty relieved, powerful in a good way and more settled once we DO reach out to them.
Keep going, Voce. Your instincts were/are good and you know what you need and what you can tolerate along the way to try to get it. Sounds like this T. have earned the benefit of the doubt, too. Try and give that to her.
Big hugs and encouragement from me!! ((Voce))
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