Posted by sleepygirl on January 4, 2006, at 12:11:38
In reply to ***T-trigger**why get so attached?, posted by muffled on January 4, 2006, at 11:55:54
the problem with attaching is that it brings up all the fears related to it, the fears of disappointment, and then one can become preoccupied with it - then talking about the relationship becomes the work. I don't know sometimes myself (about the pain of it and all), but I suppose it helps build some internal security (hopefully), gives you some perspective on your reactions. The emotion can feel overwhelming on account of not feeling like they are acceptable - it REALLY helps to have a T who can accept them, understand them, and contain them.
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thread:595143
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