Posted by muffled on January 4, 2006, at 13:54:05
In reply to Re: ***T-trigger**why get so attached? » muffled, posted by bent on January 4, 2006, at 12:12:50
> I wish I knew how I got so attached. It was happening before I realized it. I believe that attachments/transference to a therapist begin on an unconscious level. Its going on before we are aware of it. I often wonder if the intensity of attachment has to do with our pasts. For me, my attachment is very maternal to my T and sometimes I wonder, if I had gotten all that I needed from my mom (love, nurturting, etc.) would I have attached so strongly this way to my T? Would I be seeking that from her if I had gotten it fro my mom? I just dont know.
> And I guess it could be the T too and how encouraging or open they are to attachment. My T says she never encourages attachemnt or dependency but if it happens it's ok; maybe neccessary to get through the work ahead.
> As for me, I dont think its the attachment that hurts so much (even tho it feels like it) but its the things I long for that I know my T cant give me. I could be totally off the mark on this stuff but those are my thoughts.Hi bent, thats a neat name. Any story behind it? Haven't met you before I don't think. Thanks for your reply.
Thats the thing, why should we get attached when they can't even give us what we need? Or maybe they do? Sorry, I'm feeling denser than usu. today.
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