Posted by bent on January 4, 2006, at 12:12:50
In reply to ***T-trigger**why get so attached?, posted by muffled on January 4, 2006, at 11:55:54
I wish I knew how I got so attached. It was happening before I realized it. I believe that attachments/transference to a therapist begin on an unconscious level. Its going on before we are aware of it. I often wonder if the intensity of attachment has to do with our pasts. For me, my attachment is very maternal to my T and sometimes I wonder, if I had gotten all that I needed from my mom (love, nurturting, etc.) would I have attached so strongly this way to my T? Would I be seeking that from her if I had gotten it fro my mom? I just dont know.
And I guess it could be the T too and how encouraging or open they are to attachment. My T says she never encourages attachemnt or dependency but if it happens it's ok; maybe neccessary to get through the work ahead.
As for me, I dont think its the attachment that hurts so much (even tho it feels like it) but its the things I long for that I know my T cant give me. I could be totally off the mark on this stuff but those are my thoughts.
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