Posted by vwoolf on July 20, 2007, at 2:37:09
In reply to Talking about csa to others **trigger**, posted by vwoolf on July 19, 2007, at 14:54:41
Thank you all for your indignation. It comes through very strongly and powerfully. I wish I were as strong as you sound.
But most of what I feel is confusion, and after seeing your responses, I've begun to wonder if my whole view of male/female interaction is perhaps skewed so that I can't have normal reactions. Because it seems to me almost right what this friend did, even though I feel sickened by it.
To put it succinctly (and perhaps brutally), the way I've always understood it is that men hit on women and if there is no opposition they have sex, where the man penetrates and violates the woman's body. The woman is penetrated, dominated. She submits to his more active will. There is no real possibility for man and woman to have a relationship that does not have this basic understanding at its core. So even though men may pretend to appreciate our intellects or our selves, and we may pretend to believe they do, this lies underneath it all.
I know that sounds awful, but if it's not like that, how is it? I'm really needing to know. I have only just begun to realise that underneath everything, this is the essence of what I believe.
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