Posted by OzLand on July 20, 2007, at 20:18:11
In reply to Is all male/female interaction abusive **trigger**, posted by vwoolf on July 20, 2007, at 2:37:09
I used to think and act that way too, but not anymore. When I was younger and not married, I used to think that I owed someone sex becuase they were nice to me, because they wanted it, because they did me a favor, etc. It all stems from the abuse. Now I just want to tell them all to take a flying f, and so that is really no better as it also is a reaction to early abuse.
It's okay if you are not as indignant as some of us; at least you now recognize, I think, that like I used to be, this is not healty for you. I just would not want you to blame yourself as it makes perfect sense to me now that I was like that too. Well, actually it does not make perfect sense to me. Maybe a little, and it's all a cognitive understanding. I still don't connect it with any emotions yet. You take care of yourself and just know we care, and we will always be here for you and not judge.
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