Posted by girlnterrupted78 on September 10, 2007, at 0:05:24
In reply to Re: Frustrated and unhappy with T, posted by Maria01 on September 7, 2007, at 18:44:11
> Sounds like a bad "fit" between you and your T. She sounds very traditional/analytic. Have you considered setting up a consult with a T who has a different approach.
I wish, but I'm at slide-fee scale clinic. My previous T (the one I really liked) left this clinic and has his own practice, and I cannot afford him. It's a shame because he told me he could make a discount, but even with the discount I'd be paying more than 3 times what I pay here, plus I'd have to see a psychiatrist independently for 4 times what I pay at the clinic. Not a possibility for me at the moment.
> At any rate, if you do not feel safe with your present T, that is reason enough to seek out another T. Regardless of a T's style/approach, the therapy won't be successul/beneficial unless there is a good "fit" between therapist and client. I do hope things improve, or that you are able to find someone more compatible.
Thanks a lot. I agree that I need to feel safe and comfortable. But I wonder why others (such as my T) claim that I should remain in THAT therapy, despite knowing my feelings about it.
All my T said about my comments was "Therapy is very hard work" even though the problem I discussed with her were not related to the therapy!! I explained that the reasons I was unhappy had nothing to do with therapy, but with the fact that I did not trust her and I felt the only reason I was there was to please her. It was clear that my problems were with HER, not with the therapy itself. In fact, I could not do therapy at all because I did not trust her.
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