Posted by Racer on September 10, 2007, at 2:54:00
In reply to Re: Frustrated and unhappy with T » Wittgenstein, posted by girlnterrupted78 on September 10, 2007, at 2:19:23
It's way past my bedtime, but I wanted to give a very quick answer to some of your post. Again, these are quick reactions, and I'm tired enough they may not make a huge amount of sense to anyone except me...
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> Is it really possible for me to be confused enough to project my problems onto the therapist without realizing they are in fact MY problems and not the therapist's? And if that were the case, would my projections happen with every therapist, or only with a specific one that practices blank slate?Answer: yes, it's possible to project without realizing you're doing it -- in fact, that's pretty much the definition of this kind of projection. If you knew you were doing it, you probably wouldn't be doing it.
No, it wouldn't necessarily happen with every therapist. You've already mentioned in another post that you've got some transference going on with this therapist -- the part about not respecting her the way you didn't respect your stepmother? It's possible that there's something about this woman which is recreating some aspect of your relationship with your stepmother, and that that's what's causing the problems.
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> No, he used to be in the clinic where I am, but left and has his own practice. I have no clue about his therapeutic approach, but he was simply fully engaged in the therapy from day 1, seemed passionate about learning about my life, and very interested in making connections about my behavior and my reactions. He made me excited about therapy because of how interested he seemed--and you can't transmit interest if you barely talk.Honestly, I was going to ask you about this based on other posts -- do you think it's a question of gender for you? I don't think I could see a man -- although I suspect I'll have to see a man eventually, to try to work out my issues with men -- but it sounds as though maybe it's harder for you to work with a woman? Then again, considering the transference going on now, I'd say it might be a good idea for you to see a woman therapist at some point. This may not be the ideal time, but it sounds as though there's a pretty rich vein to be mined there.
Can this agency transfer you to another therapist? Sometimes that's what it takes. And, sometimes they can't do that.
As far as this therapist goes, some of what you wrote sounds to me as though she may have a good deal going for her. I know it's probably very hard to believe that, but I saw a few things that jumped out at me. I'll try to get here tomorrow, when I have some more time, and try to explain them.
Good luck, and I hope things work out for you.
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