Posted by Nadezda on August 3, 2008, at 11:42:12
In reply to Re: rofl. I'm back to timebomb issues too. » Nadezda, posted by Dinah on August 2, 2008, at 18:32:55
I think you're right, Dinah.
It definitely isn't good for you to have anything that feels like a violation of his neutrality. It's perfectly valid to need that space of safety-- and very important to have it, if it's what you need.
I suspect that whatever happened the other day was a loss of that neutrality, which he mostly is able to give you-- and which I suppose, for whatever reason, slipped away momentarily.
Perhaps that's what you need to address with him-- that it's very disturbing and threatening to you in those moments when that safety is compromised.
I'm sure the two of you can reestablish it again--- and I think it's admirable that you can sense, so quickly, when things are out of balance and put a red flag on that-- so it can be put right.
Obsessive feelings are very scary-- I'm sorry if I, in any way, contributed to that.
(((Dinah)))
Nadezda
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