Posted by Dinah on August 2, 2008, at 17:47:42
In reply to Re: Is it possible that my therapist idealizes me? » Dinah, posted by Daisym on August 2, 2008, at 17:22:31
Daisy, I've done it again. I have totally blocked out of consciousness any thoughts that have to do with his "glow". I could be a Freudian case study sometimes.
You're right. The timing couldn't have been worse. I've seen how he can go from despair to bliss. And with none of the reservations on that bliss that I would have considered prudent.
Under these circumstances, any unusually positive regard will be heavy with the implicit negative regard that could follow. Safety would lie in the middle.
Plus, I certainly wouldn't want to be included in any rosy glow he might be experiencing.
I think a lot of what I said was true too. But... Boy. I have serious issues with his glow.
> This reminds me of what we often tell our home visitors - be careful with compliments. Judging someone positively still shows that you can, and will, judge them.
That is so true. Acceptance is so much better than compliments.
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