Posted by Nadezda on August 2, 2008, at 14:34:07
In reply to Re: rofl. I'm back to timebomb issues too. » Dinah, posted by antigua3 on August 2, 2008, at 13:57:31
Well, the possibilities are that your view of yourself is mistaken; his feelings are stronger than you at the moment feel comfortable with; or he's idealizing you and responding to his idealization. There are probably others.
I know you're not often wrong, but isn't it possible that he's got his view of you and it's different from yours-- and that either you're more aware of your flaws, and he's more aware of your strengths, or that you value them differently?
As to his feelings-- maybe you're not comfortable with them, or weren't aware of them-- but they are his. He probably can manage them-- and over time, you can too. It could be the surprise-- and then the sense that it's not so pleasant to be surprised, especially by stronger feelings than you had expected. That you're worried you'll disappoint him, or he'll come to his senses? or that he will go off the tracks?
I do have a lot of questions-- but my general sense is that this is unsettling, but, as with other unsettling things, you'll find a way to work with it. Maybe this is harder than some other things-- or different and not what you're used to-- but even if you've regressed for the moment, it's not a permanent state.
Based on the past, maybe your relationship has moved into a new phase, and you're ready to face new challenges, more than you realize.
The fact that you left his office feeling good says to me that this is not really such a bad thing-- just very new and hard to take in. But that you will, over time.
Nadezda
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