Posted by Lucie Lu on August 6, 2008, at 15:10:04
In reply to Re: Talked to him about everything » Lucie Lu, posted by Dinah on August 6, 2008, at 13:49:51
> I just don't trust that he *won't* hurt me, even if he might hate to do it.
I know what you mean. When I was little I used to love the fable of the mouse and the lion, and the mutual safety of their odd relationship. But really I think that the only thing we really can trust is that people we care about *will* hurt us at some time or other - and vice versa. As much as you love your kids or husband, could you ever promise not to hurt them? Is that even entirely under your control? I think that in any meaningful relationship, especially if it's long-term or has any depth to it, some hurt is an inevitability. The question is how much and how we recover from it. To paraphrase Daisy's T again, we can't live our lives not caring about people just to avoid losing them from our lives.
I'm not saying that describes you and your T, obviously it doesn't. It's something I keep telling myself though.Lucie
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