Posted by madwand on September 23, 2003, at 20:03:02
In reply to I Am Really, Really Scared, posted by galkeepinon on September 22, 2003, at 22:51:38
Hi Gal,
I am a bit late to the thread, but just want to reiterate one thing that has been mentioned a couple of times. You can't beat it all at once. I know that is easy to say and hard to do (this is from someone often can't decide whether to take out the trash or wash the dishes and ends up doing neither!)
But believe me it is true. It might even mean being willing to see one problem get worse for a while, if it means the other one is really under control.
Have you ever worked with dialoging with parts of yourself? Perhaps if the "you" who wants a healthier body and the "you" would would rather just eat and smoke could sit down at a "virtual" conference table (this often works best in meditation, but can also be done as a writing exercise where you take both parts), you might be able to reach some kind of compromise. It sounds like perhaps the "health-conscious" you beats up on the "other" you and wins for a while and then the latter throws a tantrum and takes over. A perpetual power struggle that leaves you frustrated and exhausted.
Anyway, just a thought. It can't hurt to try and you just *might* be surprised at what this part of you has to say to you (I have some suspicisons, but this is your journey and not mine).
Not sure if this inviting a redirect to the "psychology" board (as it is a therapy technique), but [to me at least] it seems legitimate on an addiction board (as it is often used with addictions and addiction-like situations).
Good luck!
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