Posted by rskontos on June 19, 2009, at 1:27:23
In reply to Re: psychoanalysis... » twinleaf, posted by antigua3 on June 18, 2009, at 20:35:22
Antigua,
What I am going to say is much different. Because like you I have railed against my p-doc, I have told him he has offended me, I have told him he has reminded me of my father (very bad thing) and interesting he apologized but also said he wasn't sorry for acting like a father because I never had a real one and I deserved one but that he would back off and let me decide my own course of action and would respect it.
Sometimes he said things that at first I thought how rude, I left and cried but eventually when I was calmer (ater taking a xanax or two) I realized what he said was right. And exactly what a good parent would said. Not always sugar coating everything.
He has told me when I am wrong but he has tried over and over to instill the good things he sees in me that I am unable to see due to years of programming.
I think often times their methods seem wrong to us because of who we are, how we came to be the who we are, and yet we need the difference to help us become the potential we have to be. The method maybe hard to take but its purpose in the long might just work. Sometimes when we demand them to answer us and we long to hear something in a certain way that might be all wrong for us, and we just don't know it yet. But down the road we will have the skills and knowledge to begin to see what our therapist are trying to show us and then we can expand on that to make sense for us.
I still maintain I see promise for you and him. He has helped bring out something that while hard and very difficult it did need to be brought out into the light of day to be reduced down to what it really is and dealt with once and for all so that you can regain a life lost.
I hope this helps. It is just what i am beginning to come to see for myself. a little.
take care and peace to us all. one day it will be ours.
rsk
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