Posted by antigua3 on June 19, 2009, at 7:11:06
In reply to Re: psychoanalysis...Antigua » antigua3, posted by rskontos on June 19, 2009, at 1:27:23
You've described our relationship pretty well, except I am still unable to see the "good" father in him. It may be there, and it probably is--I've been blind to a lot--but he certainly doesn't sugar coat things or necessarily try to make them any easier for me.
What I see is a man who possesses many of the attribute traits of my father--arrogant, rude, always right, egotistical, rigid and in my eye has very strict boundaries, although when he points out my faulty thinking in this last area, he is actually right. I'm not ready to accept that he might, and I say might, be a kind and compassionate man, although he has clearly shown me at times that he can be that way. I think that's part of why I don't want to know about his outside life--I just might find out how wrong (or right!), I actually am about him. These things all need to be discussed, I know.
thanks,
antigua
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