Posted by antigua3 on June 21, 2009, at 8:58:49
In reply to Re: Psychoanalysis question » antigua3, posted by Daisym on June 20, 2009, at 21:52:35
Hi, I'm a little confused about what you meant here:
>In trauma therapy, it is important for the survivor to tell their experiences and feel their experiences with a safe person. Even if you were "just" telling the flashback, not actually going back into the memory, it was still important that he didn't let you off the hook - and derail the conversation. Because one of the ways of hiding from the ugly stuff, is to focus on something else. It is common to get mad at someone so that you get a breather from talking about the painful stuff. I'm not saying the relationship isn't important, but I think my therapist would do essentially the same thing - although he would probably say, "let's stay with your flashbacks for now." As you said, you've worked hard to get to this place of memory retrieval, so it is really, really important.
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I wasn't just telling the memory, I was going back into the memory.So are you saying he was right to do what he did? Or wrong? You're right, I would have intellectualized instead of feeling the feelings. I do have a quick switch in my brain now that let's me know right away when I get angry at him, often it means something else. Getting angry at him is a defense.
He knows all about me feeling suicidal, and I've given a lot of thought to what you've said that this may be triggered by wanting to die/thinking I was going to die during the abuse.
I hope your trip was restful. And you take care today, too. Actually, to all babblers to whom Father's Day is very difficult, I'm hoping that you day is not too overwhelming for you.
antigua
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