Posted by antigua3 on June 19, 2009, at 13:22:16
In reply to Re: Psychoanalysis question/long, posted by rskontos on June 19, 2009, at 11:36:37
What's my prize? I want a really big one, OK?
You're right! I think he thinks he's projecting a sympathetic look, but it's hard to hold that look for too long, and yes, it does start to look a littly creepy. But you nailed it. And also, to be truthful, there isn't probably anything he could have said that would have been right. Well, maybe, "I'm sorry you had to go through that," but I still probably would have snapped back, "I don't want your pity." Pity is the ultimate degradation for me, for some reason. The difference is that he often doesn't bring these things up again or he ever so carefully catches me totally off guard when he brings something up and I never knew it had a relation to something else. Those insights...
You're also right. People die, leave us and at the hurtful extreme, abandon us. It's part of the circle of life, as I used to tell my children :) and we have to accept that. This is where my pdoc and I are headed (I've already thought about termination!) and I have to face these fears.
Baby steps, as Daisy says, when I want to take quantum leaps that end me up in places I wasn't ready to go!
Thanks so much. You've made me feel much, much better to know that I'm not alone.
antigua
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