Posted by MyLegacy on August 14, 2005, at 23:52:27
In reply to Re: withdrawal - booze, lexipro, dignity, posted by afraid of everything on July 26, 2005, at 18:09:00
Just a quick response to your thread and a very short note to let you know that I PERSONALLY know how you feel and I have two kids (young adults) who have experienced much of what you’ve very effectively articulated. Your thread cut through me like a past knife that used to cut through me every day, sinking deeper and deeper into a spirally state of pain and anguish. A condition that is almost impossible to communicate without the personal experience.
A few real facts to digest regarding your conditions/issues
1. You have a combination of issues/environment/conditions that you most likely cannot effectively combat on your own.
2. Our society has a vast arsenal of drugs, quick-fix, distracters, destroyers, and scams that we all “drift” towards at many times during depression and anxiety. These are compounding forces that often accelerate the downward cycle AND can often become one of the many traps that hold us at bay – actually preventing proven solutions from succeeding for “us.”
3. Think long and hard about the “multiples effect” – sort of a arithmetic representation of just how quickly the results of an equation grow when you have may factors multiplied. When you multiply multiple sources of anxiety times multiple sources of depression times multiple experiences of failure times multiple cases of “giving up” times a bad relationship times a troubled family history times alcohol times a few recreational drugs times a stressful job times an ugly landlord and financial troubles! Anyone can guess the results of this equation. But only you really feel those results – and based on this equation you can see why your “results” are almost impossible to reduce on your own.
4. Based on what I’ve read and additional insight related to response #1 you will find that even if you overcome/change one condition/issue or a single phase of your anxiety and depression, one or more of the additional issues will pull you back down. Your sense of defeat may be stronger than any single solution you apply. This defeat may (short-term) stay overwhelming despite small positive victories. DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP IF YOU CAN’T FIX THIS ON YOUR OWN – no one in their right mind should expect you to.
5. You are not at fault for your current condition/severity and it is unlikely that you alone can pull yourself out and head down a successful path to complete psychological health.
6. Your relatives may be doing more to harm then to help with their naive response and shallow attempts to tell you how to fix your condition. But at the same time don’t blame them for their lack of understanding and their “quick-fix” solutions. We all tend to gravitate to those.
7. Your experiences, responses, anxiety/depression and related conditions are NOT unique – you’re not alone in your fights, you are not alone in your defeats.
8. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT POINT ON THIS LIST – YOU MUST READ THIS. You can truly achieve success and you can overcome your anxiety and depression. You can move away from the negative distractions that often hold you back. You can start to feel success in your life. The spiral that pulls you down can be offset with one (or more) that pull you up – that lead you to overcoming your defeats with success.
9. Item #8 is REAL; thousands have achieved great progress and overwhelming success turning their lives around with help and a very large dose of personal commitment.
10. Success and turn-around may require a substantial lifestyle change, therapy (with a real specialist in this field) and a powerful support system. A group or a person that can and will help guide you through the process and act as an accountability person/group.Now, often those who succeed in the turn-around become the best partners helping others with the same conditions/ailments, often providing an edge over professional therapists that never really live through the pain and nightmares. Your success could lead to the successful turn-around of hundreds of others with the same problems/syndromes/pain. Those in the same trap feeling discouraged, helpless, and without any hope.
That is the fuel that has driven this response from someone who knows first hand your pain and suffering.
Let me know if I can help.
poster:MyLegacy
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