Posted by Maria01 on July 23, 2007, at 9:57:41
In reply to Re: Needs and my situation with T.....help!! » Maria01, posted by jammerlich on July 22, 2007, at 22:46:22
Unless there is a straightforward situation like abuse, no one person is fully responsible for how things transpire. It takes two; you are not all wrong about your therapist. Your gut is telling you that something is "off", so please listen to it. A therapist that is ambivilent, inconsistent, remote, etc. sounds like someone that is not a good match for you.
The bottom line is that you are with a T who sounds like she is either unable or unwilling to meet your needs, and you deserve to be with someone who is willing and able to meet your needs, and to be as consistent as possible when it comes to scheduling, callbacks, etc.
How she handles your upcoming session with you is reflective of her, not of you. There are two of you in the room: you and your T. Both of you have a responsibility in how things will eventually turn out. You have a responsibility to yourself to make sure you are with someone who is willing and able to meet your needs, and your T has a responsibility to you to tell you whether or not she is willing/able to do so. From what you said in your original post, sounds like she isn't willing/able. My money is on willing.
T drama sucks; went thru a ton of it with my last T, but hang in there, and you will get the answers you need as to whether or not to stay with your present T.
Good luck to you!
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