Posted by jammerlich on July 23, 2007, at 14:49:07
In reply to Re: Needs and my situation with T.....help!! » jammerlich, posted by red house on July 23, 2007, at 8:26:03
There is so much shame wrapped up in it, isn't there? I really do wonder why that is. Or maybe I don't. Until pretty recently, I've felt like my only purpose for being on the planet was to be a tool for meeting other people's needs. I never really gave much thought to the fact that I could have needs. It was mainly about survival, and I think even that was an accident. So, I've acknowledged that I have needs; but, other people's needs were a huge invasion and nearly destroyed me. Will mine be the same to those I look to for meeting them?
Security is another word you used that feels important to me. I don't feel at all secure in my relationship with her, so I think I constantly have one foot out the door. I've got to be prepared to escape quickly should the need arise.
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