Posted by jammerlich on July 22, 2007, at 23:00:54
In reply to Re: Needs and my situation with T.....help!!, posted by DAisym on July 22, 2007, at 20:41:40
Thank you so much, Daisy. You share so much wisdom here. I am so terrified of being labeled "too dependent." Maybe I am. I don't work and I don't socialize much at all, only if I feel I have to. And I know she'd like to see me get involved with SOMETHING. One reason I resist is because she seems to feel it will be a substitute for needing her. And I think that when it comes to the issues surrounding telling, there can be no substitute for her (meaning a T who is comfortable with being needed).
Though, I'd be willing to do some volunteer work a couple of afternoons a week if it'd make her feel better. I just don't want it to seem like a t*t for tat, bargaining situation, so I don't know whether to tell her or not.
I'll be taking all these posts in my purse, so I can have all the babble support close at hand. Would you mind if I showed her yours, should it feel right in the moment?
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